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Experiences in Close Relationships Inventory

Brennan, Clark, & Shaver (1998)

The following statements concern how you feel in romantic relationships. We are interested in how you generally experience relationships, not just in what is happening in a current relationship. Respond to each statement by indicating how much you agree or disagree with it. Write the number in the space provided, using the following rating scale:

___ 1. I prefer not to show a partner how I feel deep down.

___ 2. I worry about being abandoned.

___ 3. I am very comfortable being close to romantic partners.

___ 4. I worry a lot about my relationships.

___ 5. Just when my partner starts to get close to me I find myself pulling away.

___ 6. I worry that romantic partners won't care about me as much as I care about them.

___ 7. I get uncomfortable when a romantic partner wants to be very close.

___ 8. I worry a fair amount about losing my partner.

___ 9. I don't feel comfortable opening up to romantic partners.

___ 10. I often wish that my partner's feelings for me were as strong as my feelings for him/her.

___ 11. I want to get close to my partner, but I keep pulling back.

___ 12. I often want to merge completely with romantic partners, and this sometimes scares them away.

___ 13. I am nervous when partners get too close to me.

___ 14. I worry about being alone.

___ 15. I feel comfortable sharing my private thoughts and feelings with my partner.

___ 16. My desire to be very close sometimes scares people away.

___ 17. I try to avoid getting too close to my partner.

___ 18. I need a lot of reassurance that I am loved by my partner.

___ 19. I find it relatively easy to get close to my partner.

___ 20. Sometimes I feel that I force my partners to show more feeling, more commitment.

___ 21. I find it difficult to allow myself to depend on romantic partners.

___ 22. I do not often worry about being abandoned.

___ 23. I prefer not to be too close to romantic partners.

___ 24. If I can't get my partner to show interest in me, I get upset or angry.

___ 25. I tell my partner just about everything.

___ 26. I find that my partner(s) don't want to get as close as I would like.

___ 27. I usually discuss my problems and concerns with my partner.

___ 28. When I'm not involved in a relationship, I feel somewhat anxious and insecure.

___ 29. I feel comfortable depending on romantic partners.

___ 30. I get frustrated when my partner is not around as much as I would like.

___ 31. I don't mind asking romantic partners for comfort, advice, or help.

___ 32. I get frustrated if romantic partners are not available when I need them.

___ 33. It helps to turn to my romantic partner in times of need.

___ 34. When romantic partners disapprove of me, I feel really bad about myself.

___ 35. I turn to my partner for many things, including comfort and reassurance.

___ 36. I resent it when my partner spends time away from me.