Relationship Structures Questionnaire R. Chris Fraley The same 9 items are used to assess attachment styles with respect to 4 targets (i.e., mother, father, romantic partner, and best friend). The items were written in a way that allows them to be used for a variety of interpersonal targets and for a variety of age groups. Questionnaire: -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Please answer the following questions about your mother or a mother-like figure -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 1. It helps to turn to this person in times of need. strongly disagree 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 strongly agree 2. I usually discuss my problems and concerns with this person. strongly disagree 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 strongly agree 3. I talk things over with this person. strongly disagree 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 strongly agree 4. I find it easy to depend on this person. strongly disagree 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 strongly agree 5. I don't feel comfortable opening up to this person. strongly disagree 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 strongly agree 6. I prefer not to show this person how I feel deep down. strongly disagree 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 strongly agree 7. I often worry that this person doesn't really care for me. strongly disagree 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 strongly agree 8. I'm afraid that this person may abandon me. strongly disagree 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 strongly agree 9. I worry that this person won't care about me as much as I care about him or her. strongly disagree 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 strongly agree -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Please answer the following questions about your father or a father-like figure -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 1. It helps to turn to this person in times of need. strongly disagree 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 strongly agree 2. I usually discuss my problems and concerns with this person. strongly disagree 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 strongly agree 3. I talk things over with this person. strongly disagree 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 strongly agree 4. I find it easy to depend on this person. strongly disagree 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 strongly agree 5. I don't feel comfortable opening up to this person. strongly disagree 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 strongly agree 6. I prefer not to show this person how I feel deep down. strongly disagree 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 strongly agree 7. I often worry that this person doesn't really care for me. strongly disagree 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 strongly agree 8. I'm afraid that this person may abandon me. strongly disagree 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 strongly agree 9. I worry that this person won't care about me as much as I care about him or her. strongly disagree 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 strongly agree -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Please answer the following questions about your dating or marital partner. Note: If you are not currently in a dating or marital relationship with someone, answer these questions with respect to a former partner or a relationship that you would like to have with someone. -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 1. It helps to turn to this person in times of need. strongly disagree 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 strongly agree 2. I usually discuss my problems and concerns with this person. strongly disagree 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 strongly agree 3. I talk things over with this person. strongly disagree 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 strongly agree 4. I find it easy to depend on this person. strongly disagree 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 strongly agree 5. I don't feel comfortable opening up to this person. strongly disagree 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 strongly agree 6. I prefer not to show this person how I feel deep down. strongly disagree 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 strongly agree 7. I often worry that this person doesn't really care for me. strongly disagree 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 strongly agree 8. I'm afraid that this person may abandon me. strongly disagree 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 strongly agree 9. I worry that this person won't care about me as much as I care about him or her. strongly disagree 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 strongly agree -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Please answer the following questions about your best friend -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 1. It helps to turn to this person in times of need. strongly disagree 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 strongly agree 2. I usually discuss my problems and concerns with this person. strongly disagree 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 strongly agree 3. I talk things over with this person. strongly disagree 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 strongly agree 4. I find it easy to depend on this person. strongly disagree 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 strongly agree 5. I don't feel comfortable opening up to this person. strongly disagree 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 strongly agree 6. I prefer not to show this person how I feel deep down. strongly disagree 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 strongly agree 7. I often worry that this person doesn't really care for me. strongly disagree 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 strongly agree 8. I'm afraid that this person may abandon me. strongly disagree 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 strongly agree 9. I worry that this person won't care about me as much as I care about him or her. strongly disagree 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 strongly agree